Thank you Holy Spirit! I was studying my “Wisdom Study Plan” tonight. The plan for the day were, three chapters from the Book Of Job….. Chapters 4, 5, and 6. I never thought of the book as being a wisdom guide until the last three days of studying it. It is a great feeling to study and spend time with God over and over again with the same stories. Those milk stories turn into meat stories as you grow in faith and love for Him. As I was studying again in Chapter 6, I started thinking, oh Lord, that Job is full of questions and answers, and feisty in the Lord with his words, like I am at times. I was also thinking that he and his friends must have been very close to talk to each other that long. Phew! talk about long winded. How many of us will sit with a friend nowadays for more than an hour or two to carry on a conversation without looking dumbfounded or speechless? Not many, I don’t think.
Any who! After Eliphaz had his say without catching his breath, I came to verses 25 thru 27, with special attention to verse 25.. Whoa! Hold on horsey! I was thrown off my horse.
Chapter 6 begins with Job’s response to his friend Eliphaz. Let me share the verses here. “How forceful are right words! But what do your arguments prove? Do you intend to rebuke my words, And the speeches of a desperate one, which are as wind? Yes, you overwhelm the fatherless, And you undermine your friend.”
Job’s firm statement and question led me along with the Holy Spirit to write this quick message for sharing. I’ll try to make it short. :-)
Have you ever really thought about how forceful it is to say the right words? Have you ever thought about in day to day situations, and at the end of the day if you have been in an argument, what did the argument prove? Have you ever thought about what is ever accomplished when you are forced to say the right words and/or prove a point because of an argument?-Thought Candy!
When we know in our being without a doubt we have not the right words to say, this is a moment for us to meditate quietly before opening our yapper and think to self, ‘well self they say’ “Silence Is Golden”. We’ve all experienced a moment with friends, family members, and others when they are grief stricken, hurt by someone or some other event, where it is hard for most to find the right thing to say. It’s even harder, if that person snaps back at you when you’ve felt you said the right thing. For most that turns into an argument unless you just walk away. Saying the wrong things can also put distance between you and another.
…. see! sometimes I know when to keep my mouth shut.
For me there are one or more of four things I say and absolutely mean from my heart when one is sad or grieving:
- I’m sorry for your pain.
- I will be in prayer for you.
- If you need me, you call me.
- Jesus loves you and I love you.
What I am trying to convey is that through ordeals, sometimes you just let go and let God. A loving hug; an “I’m sorry”; an “I’m here for you”; and/or a “trust in the Lord and be strong” will suffice. If you really don’t know what to say, just hold the person and pray quietly to self for them. This, my loves is where SILENCE is very golden and actions speaks louder than words. Even though we are experiencing sadness for that person, we need to go outside of self in such moments and just rely on God’s still voice. Because believe it or not, Job hit on the truth with his statement “How forceful are right words!” Sometimes we ramble on until we say the wrong thing which is more hurtful and doesn’t make sense in the end. What’s that saying, “talking out the side of your neck”?
I shall close here with the message. May you be blessed and say the right things to others in need when the Lord prepares your heart and mind to say them. Otherwise, sit quietly and wait upon the Lord. May you too find some wisdom when studying the Book of Job as I did tonight. I now understand why it is a book filled with wisdom and whoever prepared the lesson plan online did a wonderful job. I am now wise in knowing that words are indeed like the wind and the wrong words (per Job, “desperate words”) are like undermining another when that person has a personal relationship with God.
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